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He Can’t Resist Injustice (Part 2)

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Why do some arguments keep returning, even after both people believe the conflict is over? And why can a seemingly small disagreement suddenly bring years of frustration and resentment back to the surface?

In Part 2 of He Can’t Resist Injustice, the questioner asks Seuseungnim how to determine who bears greater responsibility when a conflict occurs.

Seuseungnim introduces Jungbub's Law of 3:7, explaining that the person who experiences greater frustration or suffering may need to examine their own role in the circumstances that led to the conflict.

Using examples of theft, fraud, marital arguments, and domestic violence, he challenges conventional assumptions about victims, perpetrators, and responsibility. He encourages listeners to look beyond the immediate incident and investigate the history and conditions that contributed to it.

One of the most difficult parts of this teaching concerns violence within marriage. Seuseungnim argues that the person who suffers physical harm may bear greater responsibility under his interpretation of the 3:7 principle. This is his spiritual interpretation, not an established principle of justice or psychology. Being assaulted does not make someone responsible for another person's decision to use violence.

The lecture then turns to an important question: Why do the same arguments happen repeatedly?

Seuseungnim explains that many conflicts are not truly caused by the small incident that triggers them. Instead, they arise from unresolved disagreements, accumulated resentment, and problems that were never properly understood or addressed.

A couple may stop arguing for the moment, but if the underlying issue remains unresolved, another disagreement can bring the same conflict back again.

He emphasizes that ending an argument is not necessarily the same as resolving the problem. Lasting resolution requires examining what happened, recognizing harmful behavior, and developing a clearer understanding of the issues involved.

In relationships where violence occurs, however, safety and accountability must come first. Understanding the history of a conflict must never become a justification for abuse or a reason to pressure the person harmed into apologizing.

Ultimately, this episode invites listeners to consider the difference between temporarily stopping a disagreement and genuinely addressing its underlying causes.

Are we resolving the problems in our relationships, or are we simply allowing them to remain hidden until the next argument brings them back?

Real questions. Deeper understanding. Wisdom for life.