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Don’t Treat People of Today with the Information of Yesterday

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Do people really change? Or are we right to believe that once someone has shown us who they are, they will always remain that way?

In this episode, a questioner recalls a conversation with a friend who insisted, “People don't change.” Seuseungnim challenges this familiar belief with a powerful teaching: “When you meet someone today, meet them as they are now, not with the information you had about them yesterday.”

He explains that human beings are constantly changing. A person may have gained an important realization, experienced a life-changing event, or developed a new understanding since the last time we met. Someone who behaved poorly in the past may no longer be the same person today.

Yet we often continue judging people through our old memories, disappointments, and assumptions. When we hold on to yesterday's judgment, we may fail to recognize the person standing before us today.

Seuseungnim encourages us to approach every encounter with an open mind. Rather than allowing past experiences to determine how we treat someone, we should observe their present behavior and make an effort to understand who they are now.

He then explains the deeper purpose of human relationships through Jungbub's principle of energy exchange. According to his teaching, people meet because each person has something to learn, receive, or share. He describes this through the Law of 3:7, teaching that much of our growth comes through our interactions with others.

Even difficult encounters, he explains, can become opportunities for personal development.

Using the example of being deceived or cheated, Seuseungnim challenges us to reconsider how we respond to painful experiences. Rather than allowing resentment to dominate our lives, he encourages us to examine what happened, recognize what we may need to learn, and use that understanding to move forward.

This does not mean that harmful behavior should be excused or that we must trust someone who has repeatedly hurt us. The deeper lesson is that we do not have to remain imprisoned by hatred or fixed judgments. We can learn from the past while remaining attentive to the reality of the present.

Seuseungnim teaches that resentment can prevent us from recognizing new opportunities and developing healthier relationships. Through humility, reflection, and gratitude, even painful experiences can become material for growth.

Ultimately, this episode reminds us that people are not frozen in the moments when we first knew them—or when they disappointed us. Just as we hope others will recognize our own growth, we must be willing to recognize the possibility of change in them.

The next time you meet someone from your past, ask yourself: “Am I seeing who this person is today, or am I still looking at them through yesterday's memories?”

Real questions. Deeper understanding. Wisdom for life.